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  1. dear all member and vendor, Thanks for all the support, hope in this coming new year. Wishing you all have a wonderful year. Please do some feedback and suggestion, to improve this community. thanks! marcus
  2. Which better?? HTC or Nokia??

    i will vote for HTC
  3. Question I love my daughters, but they seem to be engaged in a constant battle. My mother says I should intervene, but my husband thinks sibling rivalry is normal for kids their age. Should I be worried about this? Dr. James Dobson: Sibling rivalry is normal and extremely common, but that doesn't mean that it has to be tolerated. If carried to extremes, it can be potentially harmful, especially if the constant bickering is characterized by anger, bitterness and mutual disrespect. Intervention may be necessary, but it's unlikely that you'll achieve anything simply by talking to your children. What's needed in a case like this is decisive action. Look for a good opportunity to hold a family conference – a quiet evening when there's been a lull in the fighting and everyone is in a good mood. You and your husband should sit down with the kids and tell them that you're concerned about the disrespectful way they treat each other. Let them know that you've had enough of this kind of behavior and that you're determined to see some changes made. As part of this new program, make it clear that you're going to be implementing some new household rules. Explain that there will be consequences when they bicker or snipe at one another. These consequences should be immediate, consistent and powerful. For example, if your children receive an allowance, tell them that you will be deducting a dollar a week for every violation of the new "respect policy." You could also take away favorite toys, activities or privileges for a period of time. Be sure to choose activities or privileges that really matter to your girls – phone or computer access for a pre-teen or adolescent, biking or dolls or time with friends for a younger child. Write out your new rules and consequences in the form of a contract. Have your children sign it and post it on the refrigerator. Since it's important to emphasize positive as well as negative consequences, you might want to include an "earn it back" clause, whereby the kids can regain privileges by treating each other appropriately for a predetermined period of time. Once the plan is in place, stick to your guns and be diligent to implement the agreed-upon consequences consistently. When arguments arise, make a determined effort to avoid long discussions about "who started it." Model patience, kindness and respect in your own behavior toward your children and in your relationship with your husband. As a footnote, it's worth bearing in mind that sibling rivalry can sometimes be a cry for attention. If that's the case, then your system of rules and consequences are unlikely to yield the desired results until you've taken steps to deal with the root cause of the fighting. Ask yourself if you and your husband are scheduling sufficient one-on-one time with each of your children. It's important to "date" your kids at least once a week. This could involve something as simple as a trip to the store, going out for breakfast on a Saturday morning, or a walk around the neighborhood in the evening. As you begin to spend more individual time with your girls, you may begin to see significant changes in the way they relate to one another. If none of these approaches work, it might be advisable to seek the help and guidance of a qualified family counselor.
  4. Hi All

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    Hi hwuiyean, welcome on board. mymom
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  12. Dear all dad n mum, Wish you have a Merry Christmas with you family! regards mymom
  13. Materialism Mommy

    By Dr Leanna Lindsey Hollis After 12 hours in the emergency room, I groaned as I reported to the doctor taking my place. “Why are we doing this crazy job?” He laughed. “I don’t know about you, but I am working so I can buy anything I want.” Money was not the reason I chose medicine a s a profession, but it was definitely one of the perks. As the years went by, I accumulated a farm, expensive furniture and a sports car. I had lots of toys but no time to play with them. Then I married and had a son; my priorities began to change. From the time our son, Ryan, was born, family and friends showered him with gifts. Our house quickly filled with toys and, before long, Ryan thought he should have everything he wanted. Soon I realized that others weren’t the only ones feeding Ryan’s frenzy for stuff. I, too, bought anything Ryan or I wanted; I was the ultimate materialism mommy. A shopping fast I wanted to make adjustments, but I had little success – until I heard about going on a shopping fast. I would abstain from eating out and buying new clothes. Change had to come first in my heart before our home and son would be different. The shopping fast shifted my attention away from stuff to more important things. A heart change As my husband and I looked at dealing with our finances, we talked about what needed to change in our lives. We explained to our son how much work was required to earn the money we needed, and we translated that into my hours away from home. When Ryan realized that spending less meant his mommy could be home with him more, he began to be more enthusiastic about cutting corners. The changes were gradual and not always easy, but they began with changes in my heart and the example I set. Ten years later, I left my medical practice to pursue a simpler lifestyle. I walked away from what most people considered a gold mine. As for our son, Ryan is no longer the child who wants everything. Do you want your children to have a godly perspective on stuff? Begin now. Check your heart. Children mimic what they see at home. Examine your attitude to money and possessions. Make giving and donating a way of life. Make a budget. Include your children in the planning. Show them how your money is spent, and ask for their help to find ways to trim expenses. Model good attitudes. If you desires exceed what is appropriate, call it greed and cut back. Talk to your kids. Include your children in decision-making process. Admit your mistakes and make changes Look for nonmonetary rewards. Spend time with your children. Take advantage of free and low-cost entertainment. Picnics, board games and walks in the park are all activities to enjoy at little or no expense. Ask for help. Excellent resources are available to help you become fiscally responsible. [Disclaimer] This article has been extracted from Focus on the Family Malaysia with permission. For more family life articles please visit: For more information about Focus on the Family Malaysia, please contact: Facebook http://www.facebook....efamilymalaysia Twitter
  14. Should I let my son continue study?

    it depend what your son like and interest in..
  15. BERLIN: German pediatricians have warned new parents against obtaining breast milk to feed their babies via social networking sites such as Facebook, cautioning the milk could be harmful. The Professional Association of Pediatricians said that although mothers milk was generally the best option for a newborn, mothers unable to breastfeed should not acquire it over the Internet. "Donors can be taking medicines or drugs, have infectious illnesses like AIDS or Hepatitis," Wolfram Hartmann, president of the association, said in a written statement. "Nobody can check whether the unknown mother's milk is harmless for the particular child," he warned, adding that the milk's quality could also be affected during its transportation. The warning follows a report by the online edition of German news weekly Der Spiegel and the association's own research, it said. It also warned that a newborn's nutritional needs differed from those of a baby even of several weeks or months old. "The milk of a woman who already has an older child does not contain the right nutrient composition for a newborn," it added and said women who were unable to breastfeed should use special powdered milk.